What makes you a respectable person?

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What is respect?
Google says "a feeling of deep admiration for someone elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievement."
Yes I too see it the same way, "Respect is a feeling of deep admiration". In reality, we see and we show respects without any admiration too. So, respects are of two types.
1. Duplicate respect 2. Honest respect.

1. Duplicate Respect:
Some people gets respect because of holding higher power in the name of designation/ wealth. When people are respected for their power, it means they are respected for their temporary abilities. When they lose power, they lose the respect too. Many times, these people pretended to be respected and not really admired. These people are given respect only by words and not much in action. In families, some people demand respect for their superiority in age or relationship with that family, thus many others give them as a ritual to avoid unnecessary agitation at home.

2. Honest respect:
People who are deeply admired for their achievements and qualities are truly respected. These people are shown gratitude and been talked good in their absence too. Respect to these people are shown in action as same as in words.

People deserves both kind of respects from various people at various situations. Though it depend upon the face we show at different circumstances, the major part is based upon the giver of respect. There are few unique aspects that attract everyone. That makes few legends to be respectable by all. When I say legends I mean not only celebrities, but within the family and friends too gets unanimous respect/admiration from all. How is that possible. What could be the attribute to become a respectable person?

So from my view, three things in people that attracts everyone and make them to deserve honest respect.

1. Mind your own business.
Don't you think so? Anybody who is good and busy at their work and not poking their nose into other's work will have no chance of getting it cut by others. Just because advises are free, not everyone is ready to get it. So, it is better to keep it with you. No matter how big hearten you are to give those valuables to others, only people who knows the value can worship it, rest will throw it away as well as you. Also, you should understand, however experienced you are, you cannot find solution to every problems of your near and dear ones.  Remember, when people share their problems with you, it is not necessary that they seek for solution or support from you. It might just be a random conversation too. So, unless otherwise asked, mind your own business.

 2. Treat others the way you want to be treated:
Whatever that irritates you, stop doing it first. Respect others time and effort. Appreciate others from heart. Agree when you are incapable of doing something. Feel free to ask for help and be ready to help when you can. Wear optimistic optical before evaluating others. Never give criticism unless you are assigned to that job. Be sure that your criticism increase productivity and not suppressing one's growth.


3. Not to expect for respect:
People who think, themselves as superior and expect for respect may get it and obviously it would be a duplicate respect and not been attracted by anyone. More than that, their deeds will also lose its purpose and not valued. People who don't expect for appreciation, admiration will not get affected in any way from the recipients acts. Thus they continue to do anything from heart. It is simple. Just believe karma. Do good and leave the rest in the hands of God. Believe that you are just a medium to get things done.



PS: People getting older, thinks that they deserve much respect. Often many would have heard from our childhood, "Give respect AT LEAST to their age". Remember, When you are newly introduced, When no other qualities are shown up, the people around with a judgement that 'old are wise' give respect. So, people who can retain that judgement of others could continue to get the honest respect, else they will end up with duplicate respect only.

This article got published in ISC What makes you a respectable person

Comments

  1. LathadhanusuJune 28, 2018 at 7:05 PM

    Excellent Malini.Beautifull description and explanation.You rock dear.Great keep it up.Best Wishes.

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  2. JAGDIVJune 28, 2018 at 9:41 PM

    I can appreciate for your connotation that wear optimistic optical to evaluate others. This s outstanding and I suggest that in which category does parents stands for and so far we are giving heartfelt respect to them .

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    1. Sri MathiJune 29, 2018 at 2:07 AM

      Hi Jagdiv, tq for ur appreciations. Parents who did not demand respect from their children deserves honest respect. Also, the parents who live their life as an example to kids are more admired.

      Healthy parenting is to make their kids live independent life. Not moral policing all the time.

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    2. MaliniJune 29, 2018 at 10:01 PM

      Parents by nature they follow these three attributes, not expecting for respect but only love in return. Till the kids turn into adult, it became their business to mind their kids. :)

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