Indian Married girl in America

There are many age-old rituals and traditions that we follow during marriages. Do you think that some of them need to be changed? Do you feel that the way we conduct marriages have changed but we still stick to the traditions without understanding the requirement of following them? What do you feel about this subject? Let us discuss. Today I saw a Bengali bride's viral video click here , which touched my heart so deeply. In their wedding tradition, there is a procedure called Kanaganjali. It is to symbolize that the bride repays her debts to parents by performing kanaganjali. She refused to do so telling everyone that debts to her parents cannot be repaid. How true she is! No one can ever repay the debt to their parents. In Tamil wedding too, there is a similar procedure called Kannigathaanam. In this ritual, the parents of the bride, hold the hands of their daughter and give them in the hands of the bridegroom and his parents and says, "We donate our gi...

Hi friends... I apologize for not completing Harry Potter story telling. It requires effort which I can put in, but I could not overcome the time limitation. Probably for the next time, I judge my audience properly, understand their interest and plan accordingly. Anyway, I don't want to end up Harry Potter even before entering Hogwarts. So, I borrowed Harry Potter dvd from Library, let's finish the story by watching it. Tomo, (01/10-friday) at 2.30pm, is our show time. Meet u soon Here is my review on Harry Potter and the Philosopher's stone.  click here

When there are people looking only for abroad grooms, there are still people who wants their children to get married to their arm's reach. Even my mom was suggested not to agree for abroad proposal for me, but my mom agreed. I never seen her offending or defending anyone while speaking and while giving their suggestions. she won’t even take up any argument,  I doubt whether she has mood swings at anytime in her life, all she do is to stay calm and her action speaks of her thoughts.  My mom always believe, there are good people all around the world and her prayers and my(late) dad will always keep us safe.  More over, she believes in her brought up that her children could survive strong irrespective of place and situation. She cultivated the same positivism in us. Share you comments on how your mom encouraged your life? let the positivism get spread. 

Do you keep your baby with diaper all the time? This is very common to mothers now, but still there are people who question this with great surprise and I came across this question many times. I was also against diaper when I was a new mom, I thought this could bring discomfort to kid, rashes, infections or even serious illness in future. As a new mom, I searched for many parenting doubts in Google, many are useful and they are confusing too.  Finally I did, what my mom and mom in law said. Google sometime threatens us more and shakes up our knowledge. That is how I got to know about the serious illness of using diaper but be confident, many studies are only theoretical and not tested.  My write up now is not about the pros and cons of using diaper anyway. When I was in India, I use diaper to my babies only at night and during travel. But after coming here to California, I found it difficult to manage the cleanliness of home without diaper. People may question, Does you...

Sometimes when I fall sick, sometimes when I have quarrel with my husband, sometimes when my kids fall sick, sometimes when I look back at those successful past of mine, sometimes when I think of my childhood dreams, and all the time I lose my hope, I think of whose daughter I am and I get up with hope. I was brought up by a single parent, my father passed away when I was 2 and half years old. But this never affected me in anyway. "God gives burdens and also shoulders". I was pampered by my grandfather and grandmother throughout my life, if I should tell it right, throughout their life. Thank God, they are still healthily alive at their age of 80+ and 75+ respectively. Still, the decision maker and financial responsibility is carried over by my mom. Blessed with a second mom - my sister Rekha. She is my mom, mentor, fighter, friend, roomie, role model everything.  When I was closely observing her, I realized her role model is my mom. She always stood as a bridge be...

No, it is not about the honeymoon. Since, Vetri had left to US, my friends and relatives are very curious to know, what next after wedding. Are we going to abode in abroad? Sorry, I was not sure about it then. Even I wanted to know. But I was waiting for him to begin this topic. U may think "waiting"? Yes, we had full six months between engagement and marriage. So, need not to urge for anything.   Then when the ice broke, he said there were three options left:  Chennai, Vellore and US . Then I came to know that he went to US with 6 months VISA and applied for extension. If it got approved, he will continue to stay there, that is after wedding. If not, will come back to work in Chennai. Vellore? since he comes back at the time of wedding, the possibility for finalizing the house to reside may take time, so by then, I need to stay back in Vellore with in laws. May be for couple of months. According to him, he had clarified me the situation. Yes I too understood ...