Pre-wedding shopping(part II)

Shopping for wedding  not only includes the shopping for events, it includes for post wedding too.

Though our wardrobe was dumped with variety of clothes, we go in short of sarees for sure. Because before marriage, our clothing majorly dominated with salwars, tops, leggings and couple of jeans and few sarees which were taken for sister, brother or friend's wedding. So, need for saree shopping will be a must.

My mom then told me that it was our tradition to wear only sarees from mom home; i.e., not to be dependent on clothing from husband at least for one full year.  Wondered at our culture, our parents will search for a groom, who is capable of taking care of their daughter's basic needs, but won't trust on him completely. I have another view on this, if we purchase our needs before wedding, we can go ahead with our tastes and preferences.

Place of living is more important in choosing clothes. Dress ethics differ from place to place. what you wear is the way of showing your respect to that place and people living in that place. Don't confuse being respectful with being dominated. World is wide, you can try your favorite in other place too.

Remember, difference of opinion is very common. you may like dark colors, but your future family may like only light colors or vice versa. You may wish to dress differently to different occasions but they may ask you dress only in saree for all occasions. let it be. But it is good to have varieties in your shopping, because you will get your chance.

Tip: Never forget to notice your mother in law and sister in law's dress sense when they visit you. If their taste is totally different from yours, and you never want to try those colors even in your dream, never mind, give a try, you may either like it or at least you will get a satisfaction that you tried something new and different.

Give preference to your husband's choice. Generally Men wants his girl to look young. If it is a home/devotional function, must dress traditional and if it is outing or private hang out, western wear is okay to them. So, don't dump your kurtis and jeans in mom home, carry them with you.

If not in first month of wedding, start from second month to wear your comfy clothes and to stay in trend. Being yourself is more important to live a happy life. Everyone has a habit of looking into the mirror before getting out of the room, so if you are comfortable, decent and nice in your eyes, your family too will encourage it. From my opinion, in recent days, mom in laws are changing, they want their daughter in laws to stay in trend. So, it is not the wedding that changes one's dress sense but their gaining weight does.

Accessories: Buying Gold jewelry during wedding is common. But have a good collection of artificial jewelries. Gold jewelries going to sleep in bank lockers and you cannot  take them out for every single occasion. So, buy different varieties of ear studs, few neck sets with matching ear studs, big rings and stone bangles. Hair accessories, slippers include casual, flats, high heels will keep you ready for any hang out. When you are newly married, you will not have much responsibility to carry when you go out, so have a couple of clutches, wallets or sling bags that are trendy, and one or two hand bags, if you happen to travel a long distance.

What is must inside your hand bag? money wallet, Cell phone, Bindi, wet wipes, dry wipes. hair band, hair pins. safety pins.

No Night dress: buy night dress, but don't try to be in your comfy Pjs all day.

My shopping:

Since I was not aware of my place of living, I was in dilemma, whether to shop more of traditional or more of kurtis. My mom followed the simple rules of wedding and gave weightage to sarees and purchased sarees. I purchased more of salwars and kurtis. I already had good collection of artificial jewelries and in addition to that I purchased few traditional artificial jewels to match sarees.

After wedding, I tried understanding their preferences. They liked more of multi colors amd dark colors especially. As a newly Wed, many eyes look so keen on every accessories you use, so it is a must to dress high at home too. It just took me some time to realize their expectation, but I have no problem in meeting them. I was gifted with a dark color salwar to wear for a movie, that was not my favorite colour, but I accepted with smiles, and giving a try to it will not turn me upside down, so I wore that dress to a theatre. These are just a preview to getting adapted to a new family, make it as simple as that.